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STRENGTH THEY CAN'T TEACH. COURAGE THEY CAN'T BREAK.

People often wonder how certain caregivers end up carrying some of the hardest responsibilities.  If you're unfamiliar with Erma Bombeck's timeless piece, "The Special Mother", you may want to search for it.  It adds a tender layer to the message you're about to read.  "The Special Mother" so beautifully hints that some assignments are given with intention.  

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Strength They Can't Teach.  Courage They Can't Break.

Who are they?  They are anyone or anything that tries to define you without living your journey.

This is for all caregivers, no matter the gender.

When God chooses a caregiver for a loved one with an emotional, behavioral, or mental health need, He isn't picking the most polished person in the room.  He's picking the one who will love through the storms.  The one who will show up when it's inconvenient.  The one who will advocate, push, question, and fight, even with tired eyes and a full heart. 

Not because we are perfect.
Not because we have endless patience.
Not because we always know what to do.

But because we carry a strength the world can't teach and a courage no system, no judgment, no circumstance can break.

We are the caregivers who:
  • Notice progress others overlook.
  • Embrace every "good day" like it's a milestone.
  • Advocate effectively for services, answers, and respect.
  • Shield their loved one from judgment and misunderstanding.
  • Learn the systems no one prepared them for.
  • Lead conversations in rooms where they once had to fight to be acknowledged.
This journey is not simple.  It stretches your faith, your patience, your identity, and sometimes your hope.  But it also reveals a version of strength you never knew existed until the moment you needed it.

We are the caregivers chosen with courage - the ones who refuse to break.
We are the safe place - the anchor.
We are the effective advocate - the voice.

No matter how heavy the assignment feels, you are never walking this journey alone.  Not one minute, not one step.  We are in this together.

This is the Courage To Be journey.


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