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STOP ACCEPTING CRUMBS - WE DESERVE THE WHOLE LOAF

For too long, families caring for or advocating on behalf of a loved one with a mental or behavioral health diagnosis have been offered crumbs, the bare minimum of support, resources, and respect.  We are told, "This is all we have to offer," as if that should be enough.  But when you are a parent/caregiver navigating systems, appointments, and constant uncertainty, crumbs do not sustain you.  Crumbs suffocate the spirit of families who keep fighting for appropriate support and services for their loved ones.

I have been there.  I know what it feels like to hear "no" when all you are asking for is fairness.  I have observed systems minimize families' voices, choosing policies over people.  I have seen too many parents and caregivers walk away believing that what is offered is all there will ever be.  

However, I learned something important:  advocacy is not about emotion; it is about action.  It is about coming to the table informed, prepared, playing nice in the sandbox, and unwilling to settle for less than what is right. Coming to the table with facts, documentation, and confidence in what I knew to be fair and necessary, the tone of the conversation changed.

Meetings that once ended in frustration became opportunities for accountability and partnership because I claimed my seat and my voice at the table.

Advocacy requires courage and composure.  It means transforming pain into purpose and silence into strategy.  It means reminding systems that families are partners, not afterthoughts.  When we act, we shift power.  When we prepare, we create change.

Families deserve more than crumbs.  We deserve the whole loaf, a seat at the table, appropriate programs, access, and respect that help our loved ones thrive.  Advocacy is about action.  When action is grounded in acceptance and courage, systems move forward. 





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