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💔 DIVORCE: WHEN IT'S TIME TO MOVE ON AND PROTECT YOUR PASSION, MENTAL WELLNESS, AND RESPECT

Sometimes, divorce isn't about walking away from a marriage.  It's about walking away from what's holding you back: old expectations, unfulfilling commitments, or versions of yourself that no longer fit who you are becoming.  It's about realizing that to fully live your purpose, you must let go of what's holding you back.  That kind of divorce is an act of courage.

We stay in situations, relationships, jobs, habits, or roles far longer than we should because they're familiar.  But there comes a moment when peace starts calling louder than pressure.  When your spirit whispers, "This isn't working for me anymore."  That whisper is not rebellion, it's direction.

Moving on isn't quitting.  It's alignment.  It's honoring the voice inside you that says, "I am better than this."

Divorcing the Distractions

Sometimes the divorce you need is from:

  • The fear of disappointing others.
  • The constant busyness that keeps you from breathing.
  • The habits that drain your energy instead of restoring it.
  • Shrinking yourself to fit someone else's agenda.
Divorcing distractions is how you reclaim your focus.  It's about how you transition from merely surviving to living your life on purpose.  Your passion is powerful, but it can't flourish in chaos.

Protecting Your Passion

If your environment constantly pulls you away from what gives you joy, it's time to set a new boundary.  Passion fades where peace is absent.  Protecting your passion means choosing spaces and people who pour into your purpose, not drain it.  It means giving yourself permission to walk away from what no longer fuels your fire, even if it once did.

Protecting Your Mental Wellness

When you divorce the noise, the overcommitment, the guilt, the constant need to prove yourself, you create space for your spirit to breathe.  Your mind deserves quiet, and your purpose deserves the best version of you.

Protecting Your Respect

This is so important.  Respect starts with how you see yourself.  If you keep showing up in rooms where you have to convince others of your value, it's time to create a new room.  

When you settle for being tolerated instead of celebrated, you trade authenticity for acceptance, and that's too high a price.

Protecting your respect means no longer negotiating your worth for someone else's comfort.  

You have heard this phrase, "Know your worth, then add tax."   I love it because it's more than a quote.  It's a boundary.

You have invested too much in becoming who you are to let anyone discount your value.  Never let someone else's limited vision define your time, your effort, or your expertise.

Your Courage To Be Reminder

  • Divorce yourself from what drains you.  
  • Commit yourself to your purpose.  
  • Guard your peace because it's precious.
  • Protect your passion because it's what keeps your purpose alive.

Because the bravest thing you'll ever do is walk away from what once fit, so you can walk into what's meant for you.   

I know, because I am unapologetically walking in my purpose.




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