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CUT THEM OFF AND KEEP YOUR PEACE

Let's be honest, some people are not misunderstood, they are draining on purpose.  They know exactly what they are doing:  taking up your time, your energy, your kindness, and your peace, and then acting like you are the problem when you finally say, "Enough."

Toxic people don't just create chaos; they thrive on it.  They will twist your words, question your worth, and guilt-trip you into staying connected.  And for what?  Another round of disrespect dressed up as "I like you or loyalty"?  No, thank you.

At some point, you stop explaining.  You stop defending your boundaries.  You stop apologizing for choosing peace over people who profit from your pain.

You do not owe anyone unlimited access to you.  Not friends, family, or coworkers.  Your peace deserves protection.  Access to you is a privilege, not a right.

However, there is a difference between protecting your peace and cutting people off.  In healthy relationships, especially in marriage or true partnership, access is shared, not demanded.  My husband has unlimited access to me, and I to him, because our partnership is built on love, trust, and mutual respect.  That kind of access isn't given; it's chosen.

The problem comes when people take access for granted.  Boundaries aren't walls; they are wisdom.  They remind others, and sometimes ourselves, that not everyone is entitled to every part of us.

When someone keeps draining you, it is not disloyal to walk away; it is a matter of survival.  Protecting your peace is not rude; it is being responsible.

Have discernment, cut off the fake support, the silent competition, the emotional vampires who only show up when they need something.

Peace is expensive, and you cannot keep affording people who keep bankrupting your soul.

Reflection:  Who keeps overdrafting your energy account?  Close that account today.

Have the courage to keep your peace.

I purchased this beautiful print a few years ago by Joyce Hayes, Artist https://www.facebook.com/EyeofJoy

This image reminds me that peace is quiet power.  It is not about proving a point; it is about refusing to be disturbed.  I have learned that love without boundaries leads to burnout.  Cutting people off isn't cold; it's clarity.  It is the moment you finally decide that peace is non-negotiable.




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